I have been travelling for years and know what to expect most of the time, but things are different on this transatlantic voyage. In the spirit of exploring the high seas, I am being open to new experiences and have sought out other passengers who share my interests – like those who like playing cards, and others with whom I can dine and have conversation.
Let me say this; It’s amazing how quickly humans can form an attachment. People who were strangers a few days ago, have been brought closer because of a common preference for cruising, and shared interests.
“Human beings are social creatures. We are social not just in the trivial sense that we like company, and not just in the obvious sense that we each depend on others. We are social in a more elemental way: simply to exist as a normal human being requires interaction with other people.”
Atul Gawande
I understand now, that it was always there – the opportunity to make friends, but until I cruised solo, I did not value it. When my husband and I cruised, I did not want to get to know other passengers. I’m not sure why I wanted to stay in my own private world. Maybe it was insecurity. Maybe I did not want to share Pierre.
This year, as I learn to live solo, and find ways to do more things on my own, I realized that as a result of relying on myself, I have “outgrown” most of my hang ups and left them hanging in the closet.
Life gives you new perspective after a traumatic experience, and introduces you to strengths and qualities you were ignoring or that lay dormant. In exchange, what you go through slowly liberates you from beliefs that were holding you back. Change – whether or not you invite it into your life, will not break you. Change teaches you that you are capable of overcoming. We are not as fragile as we believe ourselves to be. We pick up, dust ourselves off, and we go on.
Having my life interrupted abruptly brought me the capacity to accept — no, actually, to LOVE who I am, imperfections and all. Accountability is mine only, and that is liberating. Once you are on your own, you realize that our purpose is not to satisfy others. We are here to become the best versions of ourselves, and that requires connecting with others for they have something to teach us, and to open ourselves to new experiences.
A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men. Our actions run as causes, and they come back to us as effects.”
-Herman Melville
The Universe has a remarkable way of orchestrating connections among individuals, often bringing together diverse components to foster new experiences. It aligns circumstances, personalities, and energies, facilitating interactions that may initially seem coincidental but are deeply meaningful.
When people come together, as in the case of shared journeys or experiences, they blend their unique perspectives, allowing for the emergence of fresh ideas and insights. This process often results in the creation of friendships and memorable moments, as individuals co-create their realities in harmonious tandem, contributing to a richer tapestry of shared existence. Through these interactions, the Universe not only nurtures individual growth but also cultivates community and collaboration, illustrating the powerful impact of collective engagement.
In the case of my newly found dinner companions, we all come from various backgrounds, but we share a love of cruising – and other things. The travellers and the employees are on board for a shared journey.. Our waiter Nengah from Indonesia, becomes a member of our little community, every night. He has our back, and we have his. The first night we smiled, and we introduced ourselves, and had polite interactions. By the second night, we felt comfortable with each other and once a few days had passed, we were sharing pictures of our families, and sharing confidences and advice. Nengah is part of our “little family”.
We are all fiercely protective of each other – In the span of one week, six strangers have bonded so closely that we check on each other, and we keep in touch throughout the day.
“When we feel love and kindness toward others, it not only makes others feel loved and cared for, but it helps us also to develop inner happiness and peace.” -The Dalai Lama
On a ship, you smile at a stranger and strike up a conversation. The usual invisible wall we erect to protect ourselves has dissolved and there is an assumption that the person next to you means you no harm. All because we are together, at sea.
I feel privileged, and grateful. I am on the Adventure of the Seas, what could be more fitting. At 61, I am embarking on a new life adventure. Where will this experience take me? What doors will it open? Already my mind is exploding with possibilities! Clearly, I am on a need to know basis regarding this adventure and all will be revealed in due time.
Five Ways To Be Open to Possibilities
- Practice Mindfulness
Engage in mindfulness exercises like meditation or deep breathing. This practice helps you become more present and aware of your thoughts, allowing you to embrace new ideas and opportunities without judgment. - Challenge Your Assumptions
Regularly question your beliefs and the assumptions you make about yourself and the world. Try saying yes more often. This can open your mind to new perspectives and possibilities that you may have previously overlooked. - Cultivate Curiosity
Foster a sense of curiosity by asking questions and exploring new interests. Allow yourself to learn about different subjects or try new experiences, which can lead to unexpected opportunities. - Surround Yourself with Diverse Perspectives
Engage with people from different backgrounds, cultures, and experiences. Their unique viewpoints can inspire you to see possibilities that you might not have considered. - Embrace Change
Shift your mindset to see change as an opportunity for growth rather than a setback. Being adaptable and flexible can help you remain open to the many paths that life may present.
