As far as old traditions go, perhaps New Year’s resolutions could benefit from a fresh perspective. Instead of goals focused on unrealistic expectations and lack of preparation, perhaps it’s time to consider “adaptable intentions” that foster continuous growth throughout the year. (That sounds a lot like a self-directed personal development plan to me, no?)
I am reminded of how much our world has changed, rapidly and drastically, and many established rules and rituals we grew up with are shifting, or disappearing entirely, so why wouldn’t we put a fresh spin on New Year’s resolutions? We are raising children differently and our education systems today emphasize creativity, critical thinking, and problem-solving skills, encouraging children to think beyond traditional boundaries… something adults should follow suit, if they haven’t done so already
Numerous new occupations have emerged in the past decade, driven by technological advancements, changing industries, and evolving societal needs. Some examples include social media manager, data scientist, and app developer. In these dynamic environments, adaptability and a strong skill set can be particularly valuable even if you don’t have experience.
All this means people’s dreams and potential for awesomeness are more achievable now due to increased access to information, technology, and interconnectivity. The internet provides outstanding learning resources, audio books, podcasts, online courses, and platforms to connect with mentors. If you want to make a change in your life, you have a wealth of resources at your disposal.
Self-directed self-improvement!
The way we see ourselves in this world is changing too. While the term “selfish” carries a negative connotation, it has become generally accepted in today’s world to put yourself first because of the importance for personal wellness. More and more people are understanding that having a healthy self-focus is key to cultivating a positive and fulfilling life, and that will set you up for real change and results.
Globally, the size of the self-improvement market is poised for significant growth in the next decade, driven by an increasing emphasis on personal development, mental well-being, and lifelong learning. The market is expected to achieve a Compound Annual Growth Rate (CAGR) of approximately 8% during this period and becomes an $80 Billion industry.
The advancement of positive psychology has meant that more of us are exploring aspects such as happiness, well-being, gratitude, resilience, and the pursuit of a meaningful life. There is greater emphasis to enhance the quality of life and foster positive human experiences.
Many have argued that New Year’s resolutions set us up to fail. The failure rate for annual resolutions is said to be an estimated 80% with most people losing their resolve and motivation just weeks later in mid-February.
Only 1% of people who make resolutions stick to them all the way until the end of the year — and of that, only 6% manage to actually change their lives long term.
What we like about New Year’s resolutions, is the opportunity it creates for an annual check-in to assess personal progress on reaching our life goals. An annual review of goals, and intentions is an important self-care activity, and an opportunity to update the blueprint for your life.
Yes, for fresh resolutions if it’s focused on self-care.
For decades, psychologists and therapists have been impressing upon us the need to prioritize ourselves as essential for maintaining overall well-being. We know that taking time for self-care, whether through rest, relaxation, or engaging in activities we enjoy, helps recharge our physical and mental energy.
Setting boundaries to protect our time, energy, and our emotional well-being is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships and preventing burnout.
Perhaps what we need to do is begin by accepting that we are all pretty amazing – quirks and all and we have a very good life compared to most of the world. Canada has been ranked as the second-best country in the world in 2023, according to a new ranking conducted by U.S. News., communications company WPP and the University of Pennsylvania’s Wharton School.
Before succumbing to societal pressure of not being enough, and the intense commercial persuasion of not having enough, not travelling enough and not taking full advantage of all that is out there, we can gratefully acknowledge that life is good.
How should we approach the New Year?
First, let’s accept that perfection is unattainable and release any lingering guilt or resentment towards ourselves. Embracing our flaws and viewing them as unique aspects that contribute to our individuality is an essential part of self-love.
Secondly, let’s agree that we are empowered to make decisions, listen to our own needs and live life on our own terms. Embracing “selfishness” can be an act of self-empowerment. It involves recognizing our worth, asserting our needs, and advocating for ourselves in various aspects of life.
True empowerment comes from cultivating self-awareness, embracing resilience, and taking purposeful action. An annual check-in at the start of a new year should include spending some time reviewing the past year, our relationships, our financial and personal goals, our values and our behaviours, our strengths and our weaknesses. Feeling empowered does not come from external validation or control, but rather it’s an inside job. It comes from knowing who you are and understanding and harnessing your own strengths.
In essence, the best way to feel empowered is through a harmonious blend of self-awareness, purposeful action, and meaningful connections. It requires an ongoing process of self-discovery and growth that unfolds as you navigate the intricate tapestry of your life, realizing the innate power within.
Finally, make a plan and work the plan.
I created an Empowerment Journal for 2024, designed to help you reflect on your past experiences and guide you through an exploration of your thoughts, feelings, and aspirations. This reflection can provide valuable insights into your journey toward self-love, acceptance and empowerment.
Focusing on personal development is an investment in yourself. Pursuing education, skills, and experiences that contribute to your growth benefits not only you but also those around you. Anything that prioritizes self-care, personal growth and gratitude has a good chance of sticking.
May 2024 bring you a year filled with joyful experiences and delicious self-exploration!
